Carnelian and Sapphire of the Frisky Neighbors podcast discuss the intricacies of frequency in the swinging lifestyle, highlighting that there is no one-size-fits-all. They explore different factors that affect how often couples go out to 'play', such as individual needs, relationship goals, and personal availability. They reinforce that participation in the lifestyle is not about constant intimate escapades, but about finding and maintaining a balance that suits everyone involved. The episode emphasizes the importance of communication between partners in navigating these waters and ensuring that expectations align with realities.